DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Congratulations on your upcoming engagement. Your problem is unique because most of the letters I receive about engagement rings come from women who are disappointed that the stone is so small. However, if the size of the stone in the ring your boyfriend is giving you makes you uncomfortable, your response -- after an enthusiastic “YES!!!” -- could be, “But, darling, this stone is so large we will have to hire an armed guard to accompany me if I wear it outside the house. Are you sure it’s WISE for me to wear this every day? I would be very happy with something more modest, you know.” (It’s worth a try.)

In Summary,

This is Dear Abbys response to Fiance to be, that doesn't like her boyfriends surprise engagement ring. Now whether the diamond is in this case too big or in the case too small, what would you do? How would you handle this?